Many things go through a woman’s head when she sees a guy’s p.enis for the first time.

“Is it too soon?” is top of mind for some. But “I hope his p.enis is pretty” isn’t even on the list.


And yet, men still obsess over the appearance of their p.enis. They worry that it’s too big, too small, too angular, the wrong color, too veiny, not veiny enough. The list goes on and on.
Well, allow me to share a secret with you about women: We don’t care what your p.enis looks like.
In fact, Swiss researchers found that women aren’t nit picking over length, shape, or color. The only thing we notice is the “overall appearance.”
We’d rather it not be covered in open sores, sure. But the things you’re worried or self-conscious about couldn’t bother us less.

That’s because there is no such thing as a perfect p.enis. Just ask Dr. Brian Steixner, MD, the director of the Institute for Men’s Health at Jersey Urology Group.

“I see dozens of p.enises daily and they all have their own oddities,” he says. “They all have some weird color, bumps, or skin abnormalities that men obsess over. These variations are all normal.”

In fact, the so-called “flaw” that you think makes your p.enis so undesirable, may actually be an advantage. Here are the hidden benefits to your “imperfect” p.enis.

p.enis Predicament: Too Small

The Advantage: There are two positives to having a small dick. One, it may make anal easier on her. And two, it can make her more enthusiastic about oral s.ex.

“I love anal, but I’ll only have anal with small guys because I’m not a freaking masochist,” says Michele, 37.

And small wieners are easier to fellate. “Giving a normal size p.enis a blow job is hard on your neck, jaw, and lips,” adds Michele. “But I can go down on my small guy for as long as it takes.”

p.enis Predicament: Too Thick

The Advantage: Your massive man-meat may intimidate her at first. But if you spend enough time in foreplay, not only can you fit, but you may actually feel better to her.

Dr. Steixner explains: “Girth is perhaps the most important part of the p.enis when it comes to pleasure in women. More girth leads to more vaginal satisfaction, as the extra girth increases pressure on the vagina walls.”

Amy, 34, couldn’t agree more. “The first time I saw my boyfriend’s p.enis—it was like water-bottle thick—I said, ‘No way is that going inside me,’” she says. “Then once we eased it in, it was the best feeling ever.”

p.enis Predicament: Slightly Curved

The Advantage: Having a slight curve to your p.enis can actually be fun, because it’ll take some exploring to find the perfect angle. And that means attempting positions you might not have tried otherwise.

“When the p.enis is curved either to the left or to the right, it can contribute and enhance some internal stimulation, such as stimulating the G spot,” explains Moushumi Ghose, MFT, the author of Classic s.ex Positions Reinvented.

“Some positions to try include the Side Saddle, where he’s lying on his back and she sits on him, facing the side in which the penile angle occurs,” says Ghose. “She has a lot of control and can guide her body up and down in the same motion as the angle of his p.enis.”

Another excellent position for a curved p.enis is the Sideways Scissors. “He sits on his knees and she has one leg below him and one leg above him,” says Ghose. “This position gives him a lot of control so that he can direct his p.enis in the direction that feels good for both of them.”

p.enis Predicament: Uncircumcised

The Advantage: Your uncircumcised dick will make her wetter.

“With circumcised men, I would need a lot of lubricant, but with Brad—who was uncut—I didn’t need any,” says Joanna, 42. “I’ve only been able to have a vaginal orgasm with an uncut p.enis.”

Chris Donaghue, Ph.D.—a s.ex therapist and s.exologist, and author of s.ex Outside the Lines—says this is true because “foreskin helps the p.enis glide in and out of the vagina in smooth movements, keeping it moist. Unlike with a circumcised p.enis, which can create a pull or drag on the vagina that can cause pain.”

There are two other upsides for the lady. “When Brad’s foreskin bunched up inside me, it rubbed against me and my G-spot in a way that made me very tingly,” remembers Joanna. “And I think his foreskin made him last longer too, because the head of his p.enis wasn’t so sensitive.”

It also makes handjobs easier on her. “Most uncut guys do not require lube for a hand jobs, because the skin acts like a lubricant,” says Donaghue. “Therefore she doesn’t need to grab any lube and it can be more spontaneous.”


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